25. January 2024 · Comments Off on Cultivating Emotional Resilience · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah.

Wow, it has been a long since I have posted on this blog. It is too easy to get distracted by life to keep up with healthy habits. Every day is a new opportunity to build upon that habit.

In terms of updates and life, I have had to take my father back and forth between hospitals a few times over the last month. He is currently at home and resting. It has been interesting to reflect on the circle of life, between caring for my seventy-six-year-old father and my three-month son.

We enter our existence a bit helpless and rely solely on parents or caregivers to keep us safe and content. As we leave this life, many of us are again relying on our caregivers/loved ones to keep us safe. I pray that we live our lives with dignity and have a dignified ending.

I will share a prophetic saying that advises to live in this life “as a stranger/traveler.” For those of us who have faith and believe in the eternal nature of the afterlife, understanding the transitory nature of this life gives us purpose and hopefully a sense of serenity in the face of adversities. I titled this post, Cultivating Emotional Resilience, because I want to explore this topic in future posts. My intuition tells me that some of this is developed as we are children and my hope is that experience/learning can help us build more of it. How do you define emotional resilience and do you believe it is developed more from nature or nurture? Feel free to comment below.

On the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar (RA) who said, The Messenger of Allah (S) took me by the shoulder and said, Be in this world as though you were a stranger or a wayfarer.

Ibn Umar (ra) used to say. “In the evening do not expect [to live until] the morning, and in the morning do not expect [to live until] the evening. Take [advantage of] your health before times of sickness, and [take advantage of] your life before your death.”

17. December 2023 · Comments Off on Intentionally find subject matter experts · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah

We all need models and mentors in our lives. Not everyone can be that mentor in every matter. Find and work consistently with subject matter experts to improve your skills and perspective.

Within my faith, the Prophet (S) is our best example of a leader, family man, judge, character, and so forth. Thus, learning from his words and actions helps guide me and countless others to be better versions of ourselves.

Seeing the faith practiced in others helps us internalize the lessons. Thus, I’m a firm believer in surrounding yourself with mentors or individuals who behave in a manner that is positive and helps you personify teachings and words.

The Prophet (S) is known to have said, “What I have forbidden for you, avoid. What I have ordered you [to do], do as much as you can. For verily, it was only their excessive questioning and disagreeing with their prophets that destroyed [the nations] who were before you.”

Who do you look up to? Where do you find inspiration? Feel free to comment below.

13. December 2023 · Comments Off on Find your joy and be thankful for it · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah.

Sometimes I think about moments that I would like to go back and relive because of their significance in my life and/or because of the joy that gave me at that moment. We all have moments where we experience a surge in dopamine and/or feelings of happiness.

It is important to be grateful at those times and build up your reserve of “stability” to help us manage when unexpected situations occur. These reflections on past moments have also made me appreciate current moments that bring me joy and happiness.

For example yesterday, my sister, mother, father, daughter, and I were all spending time together in a room. My sister was following an exercise program on YouTube, while my father was biking, my mother was encouraging all of us, I was getting my bicep/tricep workout in, and my daugther was working on a speech that she had to present on Friday.

I didn’t have to go back to a moment to relive it, I lived in that moment and thanked my Lord for the opportunity to spend time with my family in a meaningful way. How do you build up yourself and appreciate your blessing? Feel free to comment below.

The Prophetic saying I will share today is about the importance of protecting one’s heart: “the halal (permissible) is clear and haram (forbidden) is clear, and between them are matters unclear that are unknown to most people. Whoever is wary of these unclear matters has absolved his religion and honor. And whoever indulges in them has indulged in that haram. It is like a shepherd who herds his sheep too close to a reserved sanctuary, and they will eventually graze in it. Every king has a sanctuary and the sanctuary of Allah is what he has made haram. There lies within the body a piece of flesh. If it’s sound, the whole body is sound, and if it is corrupted, the whole body is corrupted. Verily this piece is the heart.”

May God help us keep a strong, healthy heart. Ameen. Let us always wish the best for others and be focused on finding and reflecting on our joys in life.

11. December 2023 · Comments Off on Making time · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah.

It was a busy weekend, and unfortunately, I didn’t make time to post every day. There is something about consistent effort that is gratifying and helps me be a stronger thinker. I’m going to renew that intention to write and share something each day, iA.

One of the things that make me proud to be a Muslim is the faith’s emphasis on good manners.

The Prophet (S) advised the following, “Let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day speak good, or keep silent; and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his neighbor, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his guest.”

I can’t say that I always can live up to this level of decency, but it’s something that I continuously strive towards. Having this sort of outlook on life creates friendship and leads to positive, healthy relationships among people and communities. How do you link your beliefs or faith to manners? Feel free to comment below.

06. December 2023 · Comments Off on How do we deal with loss? · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah. Unfortunately, we lost one of our cats yesterday. In our faith tradition, when someone passes away, we say, “Verily we belong to God, and truly to Him shall we return.” I don’t believe this applies to pets, but this remembrance gives me some comfort.

Prophet (S) once took Abdullah ibn Umar (ra) by the shoulder and said, “Be in this world as though were a stranger or wayfarer.”

This saying gives me perspective and understanding that we are all working and striving in this life for the hereafter. Our time in this life is transitory, while the hereafter is eternal.

Of course, we need to work hard, be ambitious, and add value to others on a consistent, meaningful basis. However, we need to be aware of our purpose in life and work in a manner that challenges and obstacles don’t overwhelm our thoughts and actions.

How do you deal with loss? Who do you turn to? Feel free to comment below.-

04. December 2023 · Comments Off on Things I learned from my nephew visiting me · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah.

I got to spend some with my nephew, Furkan over the last two weekends. He currently lives in California with his wife and it was refreshing to have them over at our home in Syracuse.

My nephew, Furkan came to upstate New York for some training for his work, and serendipitously, he got to spend some time with his uncles’ families and grandparents in Syracuse and Rochester. From lifting weights in the gym to sharing life experiences during our morning walks, Furkan and I were able to deepen our connection with one another, alhamdulillah.

As a shout-out to Furkan and his awesomeness, mA, I wanted to share ways he inspired me:

  • Got me writing on my blog again
  • Made be more consistent on making it to fajr at the masjid (told me a story of a leader who valued the strength of men by how consistent they were on praying fajr at the masjid)
  • Got me more consistent on lifting again (he was going through a 75-hard program, and watching him work out two times a day every day was inspiring)
  • Inspired me to fast on one of the Mondays
  • Got me thinking about my five-year goals/aspirations
  • Renewed my intention to memorize more of the Quran

I pray that Allah always keeps us on the straight path, increases us in rizq (sustenance), and helps us make the most amazing contributions. Ameen.

I will share the following prophetic saying today, “Let him who believes in Allah and the Last day speak good, or keep silent, and let him who believes in Allah and the last day be generous to his neighbor, and let him who believes in Allah and the last Day be generous to his guest.”

I love the lessons in this hadith; speaking only good and reminding us all of the importance of being generous to our neighbors and guests.

Who helps you stay on the path you set yourself for? Are you spending enough time reflecting on lessons learned? Feel free to comment below.

04. December 2023 · Comments Off on Treating others the way you want to be treated · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah.

It is noteworthy how your writing/typing influences your day. The act of writing reinforces ideas and thoughts that can guide one’s day.

For me in particular, I had posted about a prophetic saying on the importance of intentions a couple of days ago and interestingly that saying came to my thoughts during different activities. I have known this hadith for a long time, but posting about it made it easier to have it part of my daily thoughts.

This further reinforces the importance of positive reminders and positive friends. We need to surround ourselves with the right group of people and create environments that continuously redirect us to the path we are trying to walk on.

Anyhow, the prophetic saying I will share today is 1st golden rule. The Prophet (S) said, “None of you will believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself.” I love this reminder because it challenges our sincerity in our faith with a practical way to test ourselves internally.

How do you make sure to surround yourself with a positive environment or positive people? Feel free to comment below.

03. December 2023 · Comments Off on Sleep by 9 and wake up by 4 · Categories: Uncategorized

I realized that I am my best self if I sleep by 9 pm and wake up by 3/4 AM. Getting back to that habit takes a bit of sacrifice and I’m hoping to be more consistent on this.

The prophetic saying I will share today is titled, Islam is built upon Five:

On the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar ibn Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say:

Islam has been built on five [pillars]:

testifying that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah,

performing the prayers (5 times a day),

paying the Zakah (2.5% of your savings),

making the pilgrimage to the House,

fasting in Ramadan (29/30 days sunrise to sunset)

01. December 2023 · Comments Off on Getting back into it and Actions are by intentions · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah

Consistency. Habits. How do we ingrain consistency into our lives? We need to take action and write. One of my goals is to write and reflect every day. Priorities and other distractions keep me from this each day. I’m a firm believer in renewing intentions and try again, again, till your action leads to the desired habit/consistency.

One of the things that prevents me from writing each day is the lack of inspiration or content. I will try to at least share a prophetic saying each day as a reference point for the next forty days and hope that will help serve as an anchor to continue writing each day.

The Messenger of Allah is reported to have said the following, “Actions are according to intentions, and everyone will get what was intended. Whoever migrates with an intention for Allah and his messenger, migration will be for the sake of Allah and his Messenger. And whoever migrates for worldly gain or to marry a woman, then his migration will be for the sake of whatever he migrated for.”

This saying reminds me of the importance of sincerity in how we lead our lives. One of the tenets of the Islamic faith is to submit to God. I believe turning to and serving God sincerely leads to a happier and more fulfilling life. Lets routinely ask ourselves why we do what we do? Are our intentions are correct and/or sincere?

What are your thoughts on this prophetic saying? Feel free to comment below.

08. November 2023 · Comments Off on Focus on the important · Categories: Uncategorized

Bismillah

I have been trying to be more intentional about the items I prioritize.

My big goals for this week are the following:

finish reading 100 M Leads (by Alex Hormozi)

take some action steps from 100 M offers.

memorize and review the Quran

take Fatimah swimming

setup home gym

lose 1-2 lbs (meal prep and workout at least 4 times)

spend some time on the family project

work on 2024 business plan

wrap up any remaining appraisals

I am hoping writing this out will lead to better chance of accomplishimg the aforementikoned items. What are your goals for this week?